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Hail Mary In Heels - Coach Mikki
Bring It in!!
I’m Coach Mikki, football coach, Transformational leader, and mindset mentor.
For over 17 years, I’ve coached in a male-dominated sport, proving that toughness, leadership, and passion have no gender.
I created Hail Mary in Heels for every woman who’s ever been told she doesn’t belong on the field, in the boardroom, or in the game. This podcast is where strength meets style, faith meets fight, and ambition meets authenticity.
Each week, we dive into real conversations about leadership, mindset, courage, and breaking barriers, on and off the field. Whether you’re chasing dreams, rebuilding after a setback, or calling your own play in life, this is your huddle for inspiration, strategy, and unapologetic toughness.
Because sometimes, life calls for a bold move, a Hail Mary, and we do it in heels.
Start Strong - Finish Strong - Dominate Everything In Between!! - Coach Mikki
Hail Mary In Heels - Coach Mikki
You Deserve More Than A Life You Don’t Mind - S2E4
Ever catch yourself saying “I’m fine” while a quiet voice inside knows you want more? Coach Mikki takes the field to challenge the comfort trap and show how small, courageous choices can shift you from a life you don’t mind to a life you truly love. We start by naming the subtle signs of settling, polite gratitude masking dissatisfaction, and explore why “not bad” often silences urgency. From there, we get practical about building momentum with one brave step at a time, the kind that proves to yourself you’re serious about change.
If you’re overwhelmed by where to start, we map out simple, sustainable moves: a walk without your phone, a single weekly hour for your craft, one honest no that makes room for a meaningful yes. Expect real talk about pain vs. pleasure, identity, and why time is nonrefundable. Stick around for a transparent close, a team-minded pep talk, and a rallying cry to “love my life.” Subscribe, share with someone who needs the nudge, and drop a review telling us the first small step you’re taking today.
Hey, bring it in, bring it in. Listen up. I'm Coach Mickey, and I'm so glad that you are here on Hail Marian Heels. And this is your first time on my field. Come on in and make yourself comfortable and also get ready to do some work. Here is a place where you can be authentic, you can be yourself, and it gives you an opportunity to just dig down deep and figure out what you want so you can reach that end zone to success. And today I wanted to talk about something that I thought was really important. We sometimes confuse living a life that we love compared to a life that we don't mind. And I thought about this. This really kind of hit me hard when I thought about this when I was driving. And my mind is always racing because I'm always, you know, to bring things to you guys, I'm also always working on myself. Like, am I doing the right things? Am I where I'm supposed to be? And if I can tell you anything, meet yourself where you are, because I always try to meet people where they are. But how many times do we actually meet ourselves where we are and really take a deep dive and a deep look into where we are compared to what we want or where we really would like to be in our lives? And if you're not living a life that you love, what's really transpiring? It might be that you're saying, okay, I'm not uncomfortable. Uh, you know, things are pretty good. You know, I'm I, you know, I'm I'm content with what I have. And I would say most of us don't hate our lives. Um, but there could there's kind of a catch to that because I think that's the problem. And you see, the life you don't mind is going to be comfortable. It doesn't raise alarms, uh, it doesn't scream for your attention, uh, it doesn't fall apart in obvious ways because you're just kind of quietly settling. You're settling where things are good and they're calm, but are they great? I mean, can you honestly wake up in the morning and go, I absolutely love my life. I'm excited where I am and who I am and what I'm doing and what I'm portraying and what I'm giving. You know, you might be paying the bills and things look pretty good on the outside, and it makes sense to other people. And you may be saying to yourself, I'm fine, I should be grateful. Uh, it could be worse. I mean, but deep down, there is just something that's you're dissatisfied with, and you've just learned to live with it. And the reason I'm saying this is because this is what I've done. I've done this many times in my life, where things are great and I really shouldn't be complaining about things, which I usually don't. Very rarely do I complain. But in the back of my mind and within my my thought process, it's there, I know there's something else there, there's something different. And what's happening in my life currently, there's not enough pain to walk away. And our bodies run on pain and pleasure. And when you experience pain, you'll do everything you can to get away from it. Um, but when you're experiencing pleasure, it can put you in a very comfortable position. And being comfortable is a very dangerous place because you don't find any need for growth. I realize a lot of times that I would say, okay, I wanted to do this, but then I thought, well, am I being ungrateful for the things that I already have? And it's like, no, because what's happening is I am not listening to the call that I can feel within every fiber of my being that I believe that I can do. And a life you don't mind doesn't require any courage. It just requires you getting up, going through the day, doing what you do every day, being with who you are, being the person everybody knows you as. And that is so important. And we're going to touch on that later. And it rewards you for being reasonable and being agreeable, and also you're not rocking the bow. And a lot of times I think we have conditioned ourselves to go, well, this is the way it should be because it keeps everything calm. But in the reality, are you sacrificing your happiness to keep everything calm? And I had to really look at this because I have lived in environments where I've kept everything calm, didn't want to rock the bow, and just thought, okay, everything's good, everybody's happy. But I can remember at the end of a day going, this is not what I want. This is not who I want to be. This is not where I see my life going. And so how do we do it? Where is the miracle in the middle? Because some of you that are listening to this go, well, you know, I've got small children. I can't just say, oh, I'm just gonna be a painter in Paris, or I've always wanted to uh go away to culinary school and and uh, you know, the hell of my family. That's not what I'm saying. What I'm saying is there's a miracle in the middle where you can still do things that you want to do for yourself and still be the person that you want to be for with your family. I know this sometimes people are gonna agree with because, like, well, I've got kids and they consume all my time. Yes, I know, because I've had children too, and I they do consume your time because that's what you do for your kids. However, there is a time where you have to decide what are your children looking at? What are they learning? What are they watching? And when you teach your kids to go out and be somebody that you truly want to be, you're teaching them strength, you're teaching them self-love, you're teaching them accepting, accepting yourself for who you are. And you're also teaching them that it's okay to sometimes put boundaries around when you have to do things that are going to be positive events and things in your life. Because you can still show your children love and do what you love. I mean, there doesn't have to be an or, it, you know, it can be an and. You know, I am doing what I love and I love my family, and I'm doing this. And the reason I say this is a lot of times I've seen it through family lives where one spouse or the other is going full force with whatever they want, and the other one stays back and just takes care of the family and and the kids and the priorities and the responsibilities thrown into this responsibility of taking care of our children and being there and running to every soccer practice and every game and and dance class and everything, and we run ourselves ragged. And then by the end of the day, we don't have any time for ourselves. Well, let me tell you something. When you come into a marriage, it's a partnership. And if one of them is doing something that they love and the other one isn't, that's not a partnership. That is just that is something that is just being compartmentalized into whose job is what. And that shouldn't be how it is. And that is one of the things that I discovered and I found. And the reason I say this is because it was said to me one time that I failed him as a wife. And I thought, what the f does that mean? I failed you as a wife. Why? Because dinner wasn't on the table every night, because you didn't get to do the things you wanted all the time, because we had responsibilities, because I didn't bring, I will honestly, I really don't even know what it meant. I was so floored and taken back that even to this day, I still can't wrap my head around it. What I heard was I failed you as a person. And I thought about it and I thought, based on what? Based on what needs. And that's when I realized that's when I was living a life that I didn't mind compared to a life that I love. Because what I needed and what was in that relationship was not giving me the things that I needed. And here I was giving, giving, giving, giving, giving all the time, but I was not receiving anything. It was I was needed, I was uh needed for responsibilities. Um, and when I say needed, it wasn't like, oh, I need you in my life. It was like, I need this and I need this and I need that and I need that. And it was okay, and I was the first one to stop and run and do it. But what I was not doing was I wasn't taking care of myself. I wasn't, I was sacrificing my own happiness. I was sacrificing my own self-love. I was sacrificing what I wanted to do. Now, I'm not saying everybody's life is like this. I'm just giving you an example of what transpired with me that just totally knocked the hell out of me to go, what are you doing, Mick? You gotta get your life together. You've got to be able to do the things that make you happy and live a life you love. And I started realizing that when I started living the life that I love, what happened is the people that saw the shift in me didn't know what to do with it because I was no longer that person that could be stepped on and ran over and uh expected to do the things that they wanted me to do to make their life happy. And we started growing further and further apart. I noticed it with family members, I noticed it with friends, I noticed it with uh just within my work that a lot of times when I started making the difference and the change, and they saw that I became happier, that there was a lot of people that pulled away from me. But what I also noticed was when I did make that shift, all the friends and family and the people that really love me and supported me said, Oh my gosh, this is the happiest I've seen you. I can see that you're on the right path. I can see that you're doing what you love, I can see that you're not allowing anybody to take away something that really makes you happy. And that, I think, my friends, is the most important thing. Too many times we allow people to take away our happiness and we accept and we settle, and we don't really live the lives that we love. We just keep going day to day in a life that we like. And that's just giving you information to think about. I think a lot of times just taking one small step, even if you you you're overwhelmed and you're doing things, find time for yourself, find time to go take a walk, take a walk along the beach if you if you live on the near on the coast, go take a walk in the woods, go go have a cup of coffee in your favorite place. Just do something that really does something to feed your soul and make you happy that shows that this is the beginning of the life that I want to live that I truly love. Because time is something we can never get back. Time continues no matter what you're doing, no matter what's happening. So when you say, Oh, you know, I'll do it when, I'll do it if, I'll do it after this, some people don't have that luxury. So I would say today, start what you want for yourself, even if it's just one small thing, and start creating the life that you love. And I know that you are going to be the person that you truly desire to be once you start doing that. So, all right, I know this was an intense one today. This was something I really needed to tell you because I had to speak from my heart. And it's something that I want you guys to know that I'm always transparent. I'm gonna tell you what I think and what I feel, and it's not always gonna be great, it's not always gonna be something maybe you want to hear. But I know that if I need to make these changes and I need to say and I need to hear it myself, I guarantee those other people that need to hear this too. So here I am being transparent and sharing, sharing this information. So if you uh enjoy my podcast, please remember to like and subscribe. And also uh the links are down below. And also, I remember that you guys are incredible people. I love hearing all your stories. I love your comments, your questions. I love the fact that a lot of you reach out to me and I'll answer your questions when I can. And uh maybe I'll even do another podcast or a YouTube video that I'll just go through all your questions and help you because I know a lot of you are reaching out and I'm so proud of each and every one of you. And that's what we do together as a team. We lift each other up and we help each other. And for those of you that might not be strong in one area, for those of us that do have that strength, we're going to help you lift you up and make you stronger and better and also bring you to your end zone of a success. All right, today's power word on three that we're gonna break is we're going to break on love my life. And ready on three, one, two, three, love my life. All right, you guys, I'm Coach Mickey. Let's go.